3 simple reasons why you shouldn’t ask your partner for their body count


The number of people with whom a person has slept is known as their body count. It’s a question we’ve heard many times, as have most young people.

“What’s your body count?”

Before any true commitment is put into the relationship, the question just has to come up.  This seems to be the pattern. One person will simply mention the topic, and a game of drunken top trumps will ensue. When it comes to boys, the highest number wins. The lowest for females. The idea of everyone having a number next to their name appears trivial and unimportant on the surface. To some men and women, it may not appear to be a serious situation. However, it appears to be that a body count may be causing more harm than good. While men are praised for having higher body counts, women are judged based on the number she provides.

When you’re in a new relationship, there comes a time when you and your partner talk about the past and make plans for the future, especially when things are getting serious and the commitment is genuine. There are major financial discussions to have at this stage, just as there are important sexual discussions to have. The body count question, however, is not necessary among the many sexual questions you can ask your bae or boo. And this is simply due to the fact that some things are better left unknown, and some information is better left unknown. Allow people to reveal it voluntarily if they so desire. That’s fine, too, if they don’t. Please don’t bother them about it. Don’t make a big deal out of it. To explain further, here are some reasons why you shouldn’t pester your romantic partner about their body count.

  1. Let’s call a spade a spade. If a lady tells you how many people she’s slept with, you’ll probably assume it’s more than what she said. This is based on the assumption that a woman will always lie about her body count while a man will always inflate it. Why bother asking if you’re not going to believe whatever answer you get? What’s the point of going harvesting if there’s nothing to harvest? Consider it.
  2. If you truly care about your partner, it’s probably best that you refrain from asking such questions. I mean, all that should matter is the person you’re with right now, not the person he or she was in the past; you shouldn’t leave any room for doubt or put your partner in a position where he or she has to lie to save face because you won’t believe it, and no, you’re not a liberal. Instead, concentrate on making your partner extremely happy and being the best partner he or she has ever had.
  3. When you think about it, the information about the body count serves no purpose other than to satisfy your curiosity. Most men are incapable of dealing with the truth, particularly when the babe in question has thoroughly explored her sexuality prior to their arrival. That’s where I get to talk about how harsh it is that a man can sleep with over ten girls and be considered a champion, while a woman can do the same and be labeled a tramp. That doesn’t seem right, especially now that more calls for gender equality are being made.


From the above data, only one conclusion can be drawn: a large number of women have yet to own their sexuality. Forget about feminism, gender equality, and being liberal, among other things. Most women would rather keep their body count a secret, not because they don’t want to share it, but because you and I both know what happens next. Of course, with STDs running amok and all, it’s a good idea to talk about your previous sexual encounters. However, it is also important to know that it is better to move on to this topic when you and your partner are ready.

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